So the wedding is over, and everyone has gone home, the ceremony and day become a fading memory, what do you do now?  Continue as you have done before?  As a relationship coach who offers premarital and post marital guidance and facilitation, I encourage people to re-read the vows they have spoken.  Vows are conscious promises you make to one another, yet they can often get lost in the day-to-day hustle and bustle of our lives.  Taking them out and working with them in a conscious way offers you the possibility of keeping your relationship strong and vibrant.  Your vows can be the lived expression of your love and life together if you return to them often, asking yourself and each other; Are we living these vows? What is working in our relationship?  What is Missing that would make a difference?  What do we know now that we didn't know when we wrote them? Do we need to revisit  and restate the vows?  It is helpful to remember that this is not a time to blame for what might be wrong, but a time for remembering the reasons you are together.  Please share your thoughts or questions.