Finding and Selecting a Wedding Officiant is an important part of your wedding day planning.  This is the person who will help you to create what is considered to be, by many, as "the heart and soul" of your wedding day.  The ceremony not only sets the tone for the entire day, it establishes the foundation for the next phase of your life together as a married couple.  Selecting the right officiant therefore is an important decision and a process you should begin fairly soon after establishing your wedding date.

So where to begin?  Clearly you will want to select a person who is professional, has good communication skills and will be able to create a ceremony that reflects who you are as individuals and as a couple.

So as you begin to meet with people here are some considerations to keep in mind:

• Are you comfortable in her/his presence, will they take the time to get to know you as individuals and as a couple?
• Do you like the sound of their voice and how they speak (this is part of establishing a tone for the ceremony)?
• Is she flexible in her ability to meet your needs?
• Does she/he ask questions that allow you to clarify your personal vision?
• Will they provide ongoing support as needed and allow you free access to them?
• Can she offer coaching to you when you come up against unforeseen obstacles?
• Are you interested in either pre-marital counseling and/or creating a marriage vision and can he facilitate this for you?

The person you select as your wedding officiant is someone you feel confident will listen and help you to create the ceremony that is a true reflection of your unique relationship, values, hopes and dreams.  She is a person who can be a calming influence on your wedding day and can offer you guidance throughout the process. Taking the time to select your officiant will help you create a memorable wedding day.  Check back for my next blog entry where I will explore some specific questions you may choose to ask as you begin the process of selecting your wedding officiant.